Bullying Knows No Bounds

Bullying Knows No Bounds
The Tragedy of Tyler Clementi

By: Chuck Colson in BreakPoint.Org
October 5, 2010 

You've no doubt heard about the tragic suicide of Rutgers University freshman Tyler Clementi. Clementi's college roommate secretly filmed Clementi as he was having an intimate encounter with another man. And then the roommate broadcast the encounter on the internet. Clementi ended his life by jumping off New York's George Washington Bridge.

The entire nation was shocked by the level of cruelty, thoughtlessness, and irresponsibility that led to Clementi's suicide.

But the sad truth is we're fallen creatures. Teenagers have always intimidated and harassed other teenagers. And now with the advent of social media-Facebook, Myspace, Twitter-young people have a new way to abuse and torment each other. It's called cyber bullying.

As Kathleen Parker wrote in the Washington Post, "The emergence of social media, combined with mass access to technology . . . has enabled an insatiable market for spying and gossip. The result has been a cultural breakdown in decency and a blurring of the boundaries of what should be private and public."

Parker went on to write: "Although Clementi was filmed with another man, one can imagine as easily a roommate spying on a heterosexual encounter."

She's right. Cyber bullying is an equal-opportunity crime.

And yet, I'm noticing a disturbing trend, a subtext if you will, in the media coverage of Clementi's suicide.

The New York Times reports, for example, that a Seattle-based sex columnist Dan Savage is particularly "irate at religious leaders who use 'antigay rhetoric.'"

And the Huffington Post notes that Clementi's suicide is galvanizing the gay community-just as the murder of Matthew Shepard "galvanized the gay community around hate-crime legislation more than a decade ago."

I fear that the gay lobby may well use this tragedy to try to further its agenda and silence those who oppose them. Remember, Katie Couric blamed Jim Dobson and the religious right for the Shepard murder.

So, how should Christians respond to Clementi's tragic death?

First, we must absolutely, positively condemn harassment and bullying in all of their ugly forms. Second, we must absolutely, positively defend biblical morality in a way that rejects condemnation-and invites conversation and conversion.

This is why I so fervently believe in the Manhattan Declaration. It beautifully captures the right message of the church to the homosexual community. Let me quote from the declaration itself:

"We respect [those disposed to homosexuality] as human beings possessing profound, inherent, and equal dignity . . . We, no less than they, are sinners who have fallen short of God's intention for our lives. We, no less than they, are in constant need of God's patience, love and forgiveness. We call on the entire Christian community . . . to refrain from disdainful condemnation of those who yield to [sexual immorality.] Our rejection of sin, though resolute, must never become the rejection of sinners."

That, I believe, sums up a proper Christian attitude toward homosexual behavior. Go towww.ManhattanDeclaration.org , read the Manhattan Declaration and sign it. And then learn how to use these kinds of arguments to address this issue in public. Share it with your friends-especially with those who may disagree.

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  1. Though Homosexuality is a sin, I see very very very few Christians standing up to Rev. Fred Phelps and his God Hates Fags congregation or Pastor Terry Jones' threat to burn the Koran. We as Christians must take a stand against homosexuality, explain to others why we believe it's a sin, explain to the non-believers that yes, God loves you and for you to follow Him, and stand up as Christians to Christians who are carrying signs to funerals reading: GOD HATES FAGS or THE SOLDIER IS GOING TO HELL BECAUSE OF HOMOSEXUALITY.

    Really people.

    Do you really think that's Christ-like? No? Well the voices of Terry Jones and Fred Phelps ARE LOUDER THAN OURS! WE ARE NOW THE RACIST BIGOTED EVIL CHRISTIANS BECAUSE WE DO NOT STAND UP TO THE ONES WHO INDIRECTLY REPRESENT US! GET OFF YOUR COLLECTIVE BUTTS, GET YELLED AT, GET ROCKS THROWN AT BE CALLED A FAG LOVER FROM CHRISTIANS and spread the word to the non-believer because a Christian is standing up to the truly bigoted, racist homophobic Christians. Because as Christians who truly hate the sin and not the sinner, by remaining silent, you are truly no different than the voices who extol hatred, evil, bullying to a group of non-believers whose heart are solid because WE REMAINED SILENT! GOD, FORGIVE US FOR N0T SAYING A WORD IN RUTGERS! It's lonely and painful being one a few Christians standing up to brothers and sisters who would rather see LGBTQs dead than with them in Heaven

    Tim From Los Angeles


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